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Why Halloween Turns Children Into Monsters
The first time my oldest son went trick-or-treating, he was dressed up as a bumblebee, but he turned into a monster. Because, paradoxically, inundation always ends with a sense of deprivation… Photo...
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How to Feel Joy (With These Five Little Words)
The key to a joyful life often seems mysterious or unattainable. It doesn’t have to be. In fact, it may be as simple as listening and responding to five little words… Photo Credit: waferboard via...
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How Losing Your Senses Could Make Sense of Everything Else
If you only had one day to hear, what would you listen to? Photo Credit: Icky Pic via Compfight cc About four months ago, I began to lose my hearing. Every few days, for about thirty seconds, I would...
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Why We Need to Protect Our Kids from Us
What if the thing we really need to protect our children from is our own protectiveness? Photo Credit: cx1uk via Compfight cc When my wife was pregnant with our first child, we were living in rural...
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A Letter of Thanks to You
Photo Credit: Amber B McN via Compfight cc Dear You, Yes, you. Thank you, Faithful Friend. Thank you for the grace you give—the grace that reminds us we’re okay, good enough, even lovely. Thank you for...
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The 8 Reasons We Should Wish Each Other Crappy Holidays
Happy holidays! Joy to the world! Peace on earth! Happy Hannukah! Merry Christmas! This time of year, season’s greetings ring out everywhere. But as a therapist, they can ring a little hollow, because...
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Which is More Important, Your Marriage or Your Children?
The answer is your marriage, and the answer is your children. The answer is neither. The answer is both. The answer, actually, is to begin asking a different question altogether… Photo Credit:...
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When Did You Stop Asking for What You Want?
It’s a Saturday morning in early December, which means I’m sitting at the kitchen table with the kids, a cup of coffee, and a discussion about all the Christmas gifts they want. I’m annoyed by all the...
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Why the Stillest Silence Always Comes Before the Greatest Gifts
Whether you observe Christmas or not, the order of the celebration has something to teach us about being human: the stillest silence always precedes the greatest gifts… Photo Credit: Mandajuice via...
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The Top 10 UnTangled Posts of 2014
I grew up in the age of MTV video countdowns. Every day, the music network counted down the top ten videos of the day. And every New Year’s Eve, it counted down the top one hundred videos of the year....
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The 5-Minute New Year’s Resolution That Will Make All Things New
We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time. —T.S. Eliot Photo Credit: julianrod via Compfight cc...
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The Unspoken Reason For Every Failed New Year’s Resolution
Our New Year’s Resolutions don’t fail because we lack willpower. They fail because we have too much willpower. They fail because the thing we want most is the thing we never say aloud… Photo Credit:...
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The Last Marriage Post You’ll Ever Need to Read
Marriages aren’t destroyed by lack of knowledge. They’re destroyed by our unwillingness to listen to the knowledge we already carry within us… Photo Credit: LyndaSanchez via Compfight cc Around this...
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Dear Dad, You’re Doing It All Wrong (A Letter to Myself)
Photo Credit: Andrey Zhukov via Compfight cc Dear Dad, You’re doing it all wrong. Eleven years ago, the doctors handed you a little, pink bundle of vulnerability. You were twenty-six years old, and you...
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Why It Takes Courage to Look Inside (And Why It’s Totally Worth It)
Life is a lost-and-found, and we’re all rummaging around for the thing that’s gone missing. But what is it and where is it? The good news is, you don’t have to look far. You only have to look deep…...
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The One True Thing About the Perfect Valentine’s Date
Is that it doesn’t exist. Because the perfect Valentine’s date doesn’t seek perfection. It seeks reality. It acknowledges who we are as individuals and where we are as couples. Which means, the most...
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Why Siblings Fight (and Why We All Fight Like Siblings)
Siblings fight because they assume love is a limited resource. They assume they have to compete for caring. In other words, siblings are just like the rest of us… Photo Credit: flintman45 via Compfight...
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Why We Should All Just Give Up
In the dark hours of a Wednesday morning, I sat at a railroad crossing. Red caution lights flashed silently as a train roared by. I was in the middle of a crummy week. And I finally gave up… Photo...
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Curiosity May Have Killed the Cat But It Saves Relationships
Good communication is easy, but curious communication is anything but easy. And it may be the difference maker in every relationship. Because words matter, but they mean something different to...
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Manning Up and Leaning In to Marriage
Photo Credit: PernilleLouise via Compfight cc It’s a Sunday afternoon, I’m a suburban dad, and my oldest son has a double-header scheduled in his indoor baseball league. I line up in the bleachers with...
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